I care a lot about personal space. A lot. Too much. I obsess about it. I give people dirty looks at the grocery store. If you are too close to me for no reason, I will usually make it very obvious while I remove myself from the area that yes, you are too close to me and that is why I am moving.
But. I will not actually speak up. I won’t say anything. I am unable to open my mouth and say something simple like, “excuse me, but would you mind backing up just a bit?”
The questions are: If I actually start to speak up and clue people in that they are a space invader, will they get mad at me? Will they move? Won’t I feel worse after the confrontation than before it? If I start to make a habit of it, will it get easier? Am I content with the fact that I will probably never be able to visit India??? (fine by me: don’t like Indian food. Blasphemy!)
I know there are some people who either have no “bubble” or people who are simply rude and want to either get in front of you, or crowd you so that you will move. Heck, I am certainly guilty of being tailgater. But that’s in a car. I’m talking about the people who could have stood anywhere in the not-crowded bar last night but still chose to stand directly in front of me and my husband while were talking. (I caught the eye of one of them, and gave him an exasperated look.) I’m talking about the person who stands so close behind me at the grocery store. In fact, let’s just put it out there: I don’t like lines. It usually has nothing to do with how long they are. In fact, most cashiers know how to move a line quickly: if a line is moving slowly it’s usually the fault of the customer, 95% of the time. (And if not, it’s because you’re at T.J. Maxx where they only put a UPC tag on 43.9% of their items.) I don’t like lines because no matter what line you’re in, everybody thinks that moving closer to the person in front of them will move the line faster. It won’t. Stop doing it. (Again, these rules do not apply to driving.)
Moving on. Please reply and tell me whether or not it is in my best interest to start speaking up and letting people know they are invading my space. Otherwise, don’t be surprised if you are told by the brunette in front of you, “dude, give me some room, will ya?”